A Muslim romcom novel centred on a North London woman working for her local council and trying to find The One before her mum does? That appealed to me on the NetGalley site and I was happy to receive it. I’ve got a little ahead of myself with my reviewing as this one isn’t out for a few days yet, but you’ll be able to get hold of it soon.
A good read although there were maybe some issues with the editors wanting the author to add details that distracted slightly.
Tasneem Abdur-Rashid – “Finding Mr Perfectly Fine”
(6 May 2022, NetGalley)
Zara’s 29 and she decides to put all her energies into finding a husband before she turns 30, fearful her mum will select one for her. Mum’s on the case already, enlisting the world of the scary aunties we know so well from so many other novels, and sharing biodata sheets, while Zara embarks upon the world of apps and matchmaking events disguised as networking events and the like. Or maybe she’ll just meet someone in the run of her ordinary life …
Zara soon meets Hamza, a kind and jolly Egyptian man who shares many of her values, the poor man being questioned several times on all sorts of details. There’s just one problem: there’s not that spark. He’s also a bit controlling, although this seems to be put in to give more reason to not like him than as a real red flag, which I found a bit confusing. Then there’s an annoying man who rubs her up the wrong way – there IS a spark, but he’s totally unsuitable. As an undertone to all of this we have the horrible way her last relationship went, and a lot of unpleasant misogyny from various prospective suitors, ranging from insult to assault.
Zara’s from a Bengali background and from this comes something I don’t think I’ve seen in other books about young Muslim women: she doesn’t date or hang out with non-Muslim or White guys, but she does interact with an Egyptian and a Turkish Muslim and in both cases encounters the differences in their cultures and how they practise their mutual religion: this is really interesting and the best part of the book for me where they negotiate their differences and similarities (there’s a very sweet bit where an Arabic family choose a Pakistani restaurant for the Bangladeshi family and can’t cope with the spices).
Something I found a bit tricky, and it looks like Muslim / Bengali reviewers on NetGalley have found this, too, is the over-explaining, which makes it feel like the book’s written – or has been tweaked – for a White/non-Muslim readership. Yet the author explains in her Afterword that she wanted to write the book giving her representation that she wasn’t able to find herself in her extensive novel-reading. Bengali words are passed over without comment or loosely translated, the names of the five prayers are parsed, which is kind of understandable, but then at one point we have an explanation of what Ramadan is, which surely I would be expected to know or at least look up. I know this is probably in an aim of being accessible and getting a wider readership, but from reading blogs by Black and South Asian readers I’m aware that over-explanation can alienate them, and as a White, non-Muslim reader who does read quite diversely, I’ll admit, it distracts me out of the story, too.
[Edited to add: after discussion with my friend Leila, who I very much respect and who knows more about GMP publishing in the UK than I do, I retract some of this. Personally I do find it a bit jarring, but as she pointed out, maybe not all readers are in a very multicultural city and have read a lot of different books like I have and maybe a reader in a less-diverse area might not know about these concepts. There is an interplay between audiences here, too, given that publishers want to sell books and so books in this category do need to appeal to the larger White audience to get the sales – apparently 78.4% of the British population identify as White British so that’s a large audience not to get. I suspect the solution is our friend the glossary, so people can choose to look things up or not. But I’ll be more accepting of explaining in future.]
This was an attractive and well-done novel. I liked Zara’s sisters and friends and her feisty mum, and where others have disliked the ending, I thought it was believable and loved Zara’s growth in confidence and self-worth. I’ll definitely look out for more by this author.
Thank you to Zaffre / Bonnier Books for selecting me to read this book in return for an honest review. “Finding Mr Perfectly Fine” is published on 21 July 2022.
In a Bookish Beck Book Serendipity moment, both this and “Harish Hope” feature a home backer whose cakes are so good they should feature in a cafe – and might end up doing so!
A Life in Books
Jul 16, 2022 @ 09:36:54
A shame about the over-explaining. Most readers attracted to this one would have at least some basic knowledge, I imagine. You seem to have had a great month with NetGalley so far. I’m a recent convert. My main problem with it seems to be self-restraint!
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Liz Dexter
Jul 16, 2022 @ 16:56:10
I thought that but a friend on Facebook made me think differently and I’ve added a bit about the explaining. I think there are ways around it, though. And yes, it’s very hard to be restrained. I try not to surf around the site but just look at the emails, but then they are tempting and I’ve started to hear from publishers direct, offering me things, too
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Deb Nance at Readerbuzz
Jul 16, 2022 @ 12:31:26
This is a book I’ve been thinking about reading. Over-explaining is something that often puts me off a book, and it doesn’t matter what the intent is for the over-explaining. I am a person who likes to figure things out for myself. That’s part of the joy of reading—filling in the little gaps.
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Liz Dexter
Jul 16, 2022 @ 16:56:54
I’ve updated my review after an interesting discussion on that point, this is on terminology rather than plot points, but there is a place for it, I can now see.
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kaggsysbookishramblings
Jul 16, 2022 @ 18:38:36
Definitely a glossary would be a good solution! 😀
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Liz Dexter
Jul 17, 2022 @ 11:19:34
I think so, as long as it’s signposted. I got used to explanation then glossaries then nothing in South Asian books but I think with the resurgence of publishing GMP’s work (which is obviously great), some of them have gone back to the start of the process. But it is harder to judge and more nuanced than I probably allowed originally.
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Laura
Jul 17, 2022 @ 08:30:28
Oh, the over-explaining thing is such a difficult issue! I’m inclined to agree with you. I think readers should be trusted to read without thinking they need to understand everything. If they don’t know what Ramadan is, that’s OK, they can look it up or (my preferred option as a reader) just carry on reading and not worry about it. This isn’t to say that authors shouldn’t think about this issue at all, but I don’t think the answer is over-explaining.
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Liz Dexter
Jul 17, 2022 @ 11:21:28
The carry on and worry about it later strategy is one I use, too, but it was interesting in my reading of “Cut from the Same Cloth”, which is essays by British hijabi women, that my best friend looked up every single phrase or word she didn’t know. But both of those strategies didn’t demand an explanation. However Leila’s also right that someone less used to diverse reading might struggle a bit, and the cover of this one is more chick-lit and less “This Is An Ethnic Book” I think.
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mallikabooks15
Jul 17, 2022 @ 10:52:11
The interactions between different Muslim backgrounds and their interpretations of culture and practice do sound very interesting. I can see the overexplaining being an issue, but as you say, they do cater to different ranges of audience. And I see, more scary aunties. If I ever write fiction, I shall have to put in some fun aunties 🙂
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Liz Dexter
Jul 17, 2022 @ 11:23:32
Yes, that was something I hadn’t really seen before – even in These Impossible Things, the characters are basically from Egypt, etc. so don’t see a difference in practices, just in being in a majority-Muslim country from a minority-Muslim one. And yes, aunties as usual! With my issue with over explaining I’ve definitely learned now to be more nuanced and think about marketing and sales, populations and readers, however I hate to think a British Muslim reader would be put off and think it’s not for them. I do feel this one is definitely aimed at giving readers what the author didn’t have growing up, seeing herself reflected in the books she read.
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Wendy
Jul 18, 2022 @ 11:28:08
I love that all these fiction books are covering different cultures! It certainly helps to break down the mystique and also the stereotypes. However, when I read a fiction book, the last thing I want is an explanation of the culture! We have the internet and yes, at times I do look things up that I’m unfamiliar with. But to have it in the narrative? Like you said, it would be a bit jarring.
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Liz Dexter
Jul 18, 2022 @ 11:40:55
Yes, it’s great so much is being published at the moment and long may this resurgence last (I remember others coming and fading). It is a tricky one, as there are people out there who need those explanations (although not in my blog readership, it seems!) and it’s a difficult balance. It was a good book on balance though and the cultural contrasts very interesting.
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heavenali
Jul 19, 2022 @ 18:49:40
I find that kind of over explaining quite irritating. However, I suppose there are many types of readers, some of whom might not have the same knowledge as us.
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Liz Dexter
Jul 20, 2022 @ 07:02:36
Yes, that’s what I’m having to learn. But there is a balance – worse than annoying people like us with wide cultural interests and some decent amount of knowledge is putting off people from the culture the book is about, who might not feel it’s for them. A difficult one.
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Anne Bennett
Jul 19, 2022 @ 19:04:19
Adding this book to my TBR. Thanks for visiting my blog and this recommendation. I’d not heard of it before.
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Liz Dexter
Jul 20, 2022 @ 07:03:28
I’m glad I was able to introduce you to some different books to the excellent ones you listed! I look forward to hearing what you make of this one if you get hold of it.
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